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Ans) 1) I would have to say the nurse was overstepping. Once the medical heard the mother's wishes that should have been the end of discussion. I understand the medical staff just wanted the best for patients but you can go against their wishes. I think once the doctor acknowledged the wishes the nurse should have followed suit. The nurse was more so pushing what she wanted on to the daughters.
2) I don't think their opinion was based off the fact that she couldn't go back to the nursing home after the procedure.
If they were selfish and didn't want to take care of her than I can see that but their there so they are obviously love her. I just see too girls caring out what their moms wishes. I am sure they have their opinions on her not getting the surgery but it's her life not theirs.
3) I don't think the nurse's opinion matters to family. It may matter to the doctor so if she wants she can pull the doctor aside and plead her case. However her thoughts still would matter, the patient as already made their mind.
Hats like trying to give someone a cookie their allergic to, they already know to avoid the cookie, they also know the outcome of eating the cookie and you keep pushing them to try it.
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